craving deeper intimacy? You’re more normal thank you think.

Have you ever sat across from your partner in silence, caught in the familiar rhythm of daily life, and wondered if something is missing? After the kids are finally asleep, maybe you slip into the usual patterns—one of you scrolls through your phone, the other sinks into the couch with a book. The house feels quiet, but so does your connection.

It might not be every day, but some days you feel a longing—a quiet ache for something more. More closeness. More connection. A longing to feel seen, deeply and authentically, by your partner or even by yourself.

It’s not always easy to name, is it? Somewhere in that space, where this quiet longing resides, doubt starts creeping in. First, you wonder, “Is it me? Is there something wrong with me?” Then comes the spiral—“Maybe it’s them. Maybe we lost something along the way. Maybe this is just what happens.”

You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. The longing you feel is a part of being human—woven into the very essence of who we are. Craving deeper intimacy isn’t a flaw; it’s a call to grow, to reconnect, and to thrive.

Deeper Intimacy Isn’t Selfish—It’s Human

We live in a world that often tells us to stay busy, suppress “messy” emotions, and fit into predefined molds. Over time, these pressures can make it harder to be vulnerable—even though vulnerability is the gateway to true intimacy. Whether it’s societal expectations or unresolved emotional wounds, many of us learn to keep parts of ourselves hidden—sometimes even from ourselves.

The narrative is often, “Be grateful. Don’t ask for too much. This is just how things are.” Does that sound familiar?

But here’s a truth you need to hear: craving intimacy, whether it’s with yourself or your partner, isn’t selfish or unreasonable. It’s an invitation. It’s your soul’s way of saying, “It’s time to grow.” Your relationship, just like you, is alive. It evolves, it shifts, and it thrives when nurtured.

The Silent Longing Many of Us Feel

Take a moment and check in with yourself. Has this narrative shown up in your life? Have you found yourself asking existential questions about purpose, connection, or even love?

I worked recently with a client, a mother of three, who confided that she felt lost and disconnected in her marriage. She loved her husband and knew he was a good man, but something wasn’t right. After years of focusing on raising children, she hadn’t noticed the subtle ways she disconnected from herself—and how that impacted her bond with her partner.

In our work, she realized her longing wasn’t about her partner. It was her body and soul calling her back to herself. She began small, dedicating moments in her day to reconnect with her inner world through journaling and movement. Over time, as she rebuilt her connection with herself, it naturally extended to her partner.

Her story isn’t unique. Many of us, especially women, lose touch with our inner world as we focus on family, work, and the endless to-do lists. But connecting with yourself is the foundation for deepening intimacy with anyone else.

How to Begin Reconnecting—An Embodiment Practice

Feeling disconnected? Start by dedicating intentional time to yourself—a radical act of self-trust. A practice I recommend, and one that has transformed the lives of many clients, is a 15-minute embodiment practice. It’s simple, accessible, and incredibly profound.

Here’s how to start:

Create a Quiet Space
Choose a time and place where you won’t be disturbed. Morning is ideal, but work with what fits into your life.

Choose Three Songs
Find music with no lyrics—instrumentals or electronic sounds with a deep, steady beat work well.

Sit Still and Listen
Sit in a comfortable position. For the first song, focus entirely on stillness. Close your eyes, tune into your body, and notice the sensations inside you.

Follow Your Body’s Lead
When you feel ready—whether it’s one minute in or five—allow your body to move. There’s no right or wrong way here. Maybe it’s a small sway of your shoulders or a simple roll of your neck. The point isn’t how it looks but how it feels.

Notice and Release
This practice might bring up emotions, physical sensations, or memories. Simply notice them. You’re not here to push or force anything—just to allow.

This simple practice is a way to clear blocks, release stored emotions, and awaken your natural energy flow. Little by little, it draws you closer to yourself. Deeper self-connection lays the groundwork for cultivating intimacy with others.

Longing for More Means You’re Growing

Here’s the beauty of all this—the fact that you’re craving more means something extraordinary. It means you’re ready for growth. It’s your signal to evolve, to connect in new ways, and to deepen your experience.

Imagine showing up to your relationships—platonic or romantic—including the most authentic and alive version of yourself. The kind of connection you’ll create from that space is deeply fulfilling, because you’ll start attracting the same energy in return.

You deserve a life that feels expressive, connected, and fully alive.

It Starts with You—And You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

If this resonates with you, I’d love to offer a space where we explore that deeper wisdom you already have within. Sometimes, it’s easier to connect when you have a supportive mirror guiding you.

I offer free discovery calls for anyone curious to take the next step toward deeper self-connection and intimacy. Together, we’ll uncover the small shifts that can ripple out into your entire life.

Are you ready to say yes to more? Let’s explore what’s possible together. Click here to book your free call, and take the first step toward creating a life alive with connection and passion.